For some people, reading this information might be a sign that you are ready for big changes in your life. You might have a sense that this isn’t going to be easy and might be a struggle sometimes.
At the same time, it might feel like things are a struggle already and it’s time for things to change as soon as possible. There can be a real sense of ‘c’mon, I’m ready, let’s get on with it!’
It’s important to try and stay realistic about how much can change and how quickly. You can make changes for the better in your life one step at a time.
Trying to work it all out can become overwhelming and frustrating. It can feel like everything in your life is beyond your control.
At times like this it can be helpful to try and focus on something you can control – it might be your breathing or what food you are going to eat tonight. These might seem like small decisions but they are important.
Making change happen requires focus, effort and repetition.
Making change happen
Change rarely happens in a neatly staged or organised way. Making changes to address unhelpful habits or to develop more useful patterns of behaviour requires focus, effort and repetition. Below is a basic map to help ‘track change’.
I don’t know or want to know. You don’t see a problem or need to change. Others efforts to convince you of a need for change are generally ineffective.
I’m thinking about it. You see that there’s a problem you want to get some control over, you’re evaluating the pros and cons. Others hear you talking about problem/s and options.
I want to, I’m getting ready. You are ready to change and make things happen. Others help through encouragement and strengthening your motivation.
I’m doing it. You’re taking active steps to modify your behaviour and/or environment: in your own unique way.
Others can help by noticing positive changes.
I’m staying on track. Change has been made and maintained for a few months. Although, there are occasional ‘bumps’ in the road, you refuse to be derailed and know what it takes to stay on track.
When seeking to make change, remember that SAFETY is a foundation stone of building a solid base for yourself and the well being of those close to you.