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Nightmares can be very disturbing 这是不寻常男子遇到睡眠问题,并有以下儿童的性虐待或性侵犯的恶梦. 恶梦的麻烦是,他们不能只令人不安的和自己, 但可以带回痛苦, 镦性虐待或性侵犯有关的回忆. 恶梦可能发生天, 周, 辱骂事件后的几个月或几年, 只出现一次或再次发生. 它们可以出现从哪儿, 很难理解,如果其内容是指性虐待,很难向其他人解释. 下面是一些有关的恶梦, 以及如何处理与他们的一些建议.

有些影响恶梦

梦魇可以产生以下效果:

  • 孤独的感受, 苦难, 漏洞, 恐惧, 焦虑, 悲, 愤怒, 内疚和羞耻.
  • 物理反应, 如呼吸困难, 胸闷, 出汗和发抖.
  • 睡觉困难 – 问题睡前和睡, 单独或与别人睡觉睡觉的恐惧.

不幸的是, 一个男人应该总是觉得自己控制,并能够处理任何抛出他可以增加男人的困难,在处理这些共同作用的社会期望. 这些不切实际的性别期望能有男人评价自己在关系到自己的能力来管理恶梦可以使它很难寻求帮助.

事后, 我只是不睡觉. 我醒来一身冷汗, 都紧张起来. 我的房子的队友告诉我,他们可以听到一个低沉的尖叫听起来像什么. 我只是不能告诉他们.

可以理解, 以下恶梦男人可以成为斤斤计较内容, 试图整理出来,使他们感. 但, 往往是沉默和保密性周围性虐待可以得到男人的方式与合作伙伴的发言, 朋友和家人.

事情可以做,以管理当时的噩梦

恶梦发生,有事情可以做,在短期和长期来对付他们. 下面有一些方法管理发生时,他们的恶梦:

  • 确信自己是安全的,你记住的创伤性事件,现在没有发生.
  • 缓慢地深呼吸.
  • 要知道和了解你的身体创伤性经验的自然生理反应的回应; 继续深呼吸,慢慢地,尽量减缓这些物理反应, 尝试看看,想象你的肌肉放松.
  • 在目前找到自己; 检查,环顾目前的现实, 感人的事情, 冲压你的脚, 看着镜中的自言自语.
  • 确认您的物理安全 – 开灯, 绕着房子, 检查锁.
  • 有喝的水.
  • 洗脸或洗个温水澡或淋浴.
  • 专注于别的东西: 读一本书或杂志, 看电视, 听收音机或轻松的音乐.
  • 对话与合作伙伴, 谁是支持的朋友或亲戚.
如果坚持做恶梦,你可以做什么

如果, 在早晨, 可以抛开的噩梦,集中精力做什么对你很重要,那么做. 如果, 但, 持续或成为一场噩梦特别是破坏性的,你不妨试试下面的练习.

  1. 挑选一个不愉快的梦/噩梦, 这不是一个直接重播或重新制定一个令人痛心的事件,并把它写下来.
  2. Write the unpleasant dream down in as much detail as you can. Only in this telling of the dream change the ending so that it suits you. Remember it is your choice to do this and that you can stop writing or thinking about the dream and do something else any time you want.
  3. 现在, 了解这个新的梦想的首选版本, 排练每天晚上约 5-15 分钟前睡觉.
  4. 一旦你已经排练了梦想, 进行放松练习, 一个你熟悉并帮助你入睡和平. 如果你醒来, 它可以是有用重复此放松运动, 缓慢地深呼吸.
  5. 当你感到满意,你必须重新层林以更好地适应不愉快的梦,你, 你可以选择比去年稍微更激烈的是另一个噩梦. 确保这个过程是一个逐渐增加强度和不超过 2 在一个星期的噩梦. 也照顾好自己; 你不必过度内描述镦内容的梦想.

这仅仅是一个恶梦处理方式. 如果它不为你工作,如果你找到它邀请倒叙白天,然后停止. 有人认为它是有用的梦想写下来,他们的反应在日记或日志, 作为一种方式来获得他们的头. 如果继续受到干扰恶梦,还是觉得有一些你希望工作, 它可以是有用找有经验的辅导员,您可以与谁.

鸣谢: 摘自内布里斯班性侵服务提供的信息, 资料片 – ‘管理恶梦’ 克拉科夫霍利斯特Field等人, “意象排演治疗慢性噩梦性突击幸存者​​创伤后应激障碍“. Journal of the American medical Association Vol. 286 不 5, 1 八月 2001

 

7 评论

  1. Comment by Aplin

    Aplin 回复 七月 5, 2016 11:43 下午

    I was sexually and physically abused several times during childhood and also when I was a teenager. I have seen psychiatrist and therapist over the years, but still not better. Any suggestions on what I should do? 谢谢

    • Comment by Jerry

      Jerry 回复 九月 16, 2016 11:09 下午

      The therapy and psychiatry are not designed to make you better. They are forms of study that can bring you down a path of healing, should you take that path. Best of luck to you my friend.

    • Comment by Beat

      Beat 回复 九月 21, 2016 6:20 下午

      Hey Alpin,

      I too was sexually, physically and mentally abused growing up. It wasnt until college age that I was in a safer place to work on the past I tried to shove into the back of my mind.

      I did a LOT of things to heal and be normal and here’s what I did:

      Stick with a good therapist. One that is on your side and understands things. You need that healthy response from a support system.
      Join a mens small group for sexual abuse. This actually helped me more than I could ever say. I found real people who went through similar (some of them worse) and shared that they experienced daily after effects just like me. It helps to lessen the burden of feeling the onlymessed up one” 或 “crazy onethat I normally get.
      Read a lot of articles and recovery books. I purposely desensitized myself by reading other people’s stories. I even read those of transgendered people because they had experienced what I went through, just in a different setting.
      Prayed a lot. It doesn’t matter to me what you fill in the blank for religion/spirituality. But I’m not going to lie that talking to God didn’t get me through it. I was able to be angry, yell, question and hold my assailants guilty (as they will never be tried in a human court), and just talk out the crap. While I never had a red sea parting moment, I did in baby steps, heal from PTSD. Of course this is very personal and may not apply to everyone.
      PROCESSED THE EMOTIONS. This is the most important part. It is recommended you do this with a therapist as it can be overwhelming by yourself. The more abuse you went through, the more times you will have to do this, as it is best to take it one event at a time.

      Good luck to you Aplin! It takes time but I know you will get better.

    • 由杰西评论 [生活好员工]

      桎梏 [生活好员工] 回复 十月 5, 2016 11:14 上

      Hi Alpin,

      First I want to commend you for taking steps to work through your difficulties, and for not giving up. I know it can be disheartening when things progress slower than you would likeit can be helpful to keep in mind that sometimes this is what is needed. To move through things at a pace that isn’t overwhelming, knowing that you are processing things in the background and always moving forward, even when it feels otherwise.

      The first step is to look after your own health and wellbeing. Engage in self carephysical and mental. Build up your safety and stability, as this will bring you to a place where you can manage and cope with the things underneath.

      And finally, while I know therapy hasn’t been helpful so far, I can’t recommend enough that you find a therapist or counsellor with experience in trauma and/or sexual abuse. This is a very specialised area that in which a therapist needs specific training and experience. Keep trying to find one who works for you, as all professionals have their own style and it may not always be the first, second or even third that suits you as an individual.

      Know that recovery is possible and help is available. I wish you the best.

      And a big thank you to everyone else for your comments. While everyone’s experiences and recovery are different, it is wonderful to hear what has worked for some, and to see people reaching out to support each other.

  2. Comment by Quinn

    Quinn 回复 一月 22, 2017 11:13 上

    Ever since I was little, I’ve had these dreams. No one is ever on them. No voices. I do hear a monotone hum while these black lines and blobs move and spin. It doesn’t sound scarry but it does make me frightened to even remember these dreams and the very thought makes me so dizzy. Anyone else ever experience this?

  3. Comment by alyssa

    alyssa 回复 六月 13, 2017 3:24 下午

    i was sexually assulted at a young age, it was my uncle. we were having a party at his house, i got tired so i went to the guest room to sleep, later that night he came in there and raped me. in the middle of it i woke up, i tried screaming but he held me down and covered my mouth. ive went to therapy, it sorta helped. but since then ive had the same sickining dream, i wake up gasping for breath, and sobbing. im scared some nights to go to sleep, ive never tried writing this story down before, and ive only talked about it to my mom, boyfriend, and therapist. im hoping this will help.

  4. Comment by Michelle

    Michelle 回复 十一月 10, 2017 8:32 上

    I was assaulted last year. My friends and family were all very supportive, I went to a few therapy sessions and my university expelled my rapist. Coping of course wasn’t easy at first, but I feel that I’ve dealt with this experience in a relatively healthy way. It is now the anniversary of my assaultI remember because I came home from the hospital only to find that Donald Trump won the election, traumatizing me even further. I’ve had multiple nightmares each night for five consecutive nights, some of them about being assaulted and others just generally terrifying. My roommate tells me she hears me whimpering in my sleep. I’m exhausted, but also afraid to go back to sleep. What can I do differently to get some rest?

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