Here you can read the booklet discussed on the page Men talk about child sexual abuse.
This booklet provided an opportunity for men who had experienced child sexual abuse to speak out about their own experiences and what they felt was important in helping them. By presenting their feelings, views and experiences, it is hoped that other survivors, the community and professionals who work in the area, will learn more about child sexual abuse and its effects. It may also encourage and empower other survivors to speak out.
Seventeen adult male survivors of child sexual abuse participated. Some of the survivors interviewed were pre-schoolers at the time of the abuse while others were of primary or secondary school age. They come from a cross-section of the community and range in age from 20 years to 55 years of age.
What the men themselves had say about their stories being published in this booklet:
‘It will reach out to guys. They will be able to accept that they are not alone and that they are not abnormal, that other guys have shared a common sort of experience. I hope that a booklet like this will in some way help to break that isolation. I encourage them to reach out and break the silence because there is a life out there if you look for it, and there are supportive people who you can trust and who will understand you and respect you and not reinforce your negative feelings in regard to your abuse.’
‘I can actually see how this booklet could help people. I feel connected to some of the other survivors. The effort of the interviews is really worth it. I feel like I’ve made some contribution to help fix a serious problem.’
‘I could put it (the booklet) down because it hurt so much, but I couldn’t put it down because it helped so much.’
‘I was reading and looking for my own quotes and then I stopped looking for my quotes and I had a sense of identifying with the other men. I feel really positive, I feel out in the public. I am one among many. I feel a lot more comfortable and I think I can feel a lot of what each person is saying.’
‘For me contributing to this booklet has been another significant milestone in my recovery from the abuse I had to endure as a child and adolescent. I know I can and will recover from the sexual abuse because I am able to.’
‘Reading my quotes makes me feel very clear about what happened — it’s not something vague in my mind. Also seeing that it’s not only me but other people too gives me a certain strength.’
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