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If you have experienced flashbacks in the past, please take care while reading this page. Some examples may be triggering.

I was travelling along okay and then 'BANG', 不知从哪儿, 我是直背有. 据纺我出去. 我不知道发生了什么事。"

介绍

Flashbacks can hit like lightning谁经历过性虐待,许多人受到倒叙. 倒叙表现为从最近或过去事件的记忆或回忆片段. 它们可以被震动, 痛苦和破坏性. 倒叙可以持续几秒钟短暂的或涉及广泛的内存回收. 它们可发生白天或夜晚, 当你是醒着还是睡着了,可以带你完全措手不及. 它们可以是在所述第一人 (在那里,感觉就像你在那里, 看到和经历的事情,通过你的眼睛) 或第三人 (它可以像你正在看一部电影中,你是主角). 有时倒叙可以重放这些事件,你以前不知道或早已遗忘.

倒叙可以采取多种形式:

  • 视觉记忆: Images, 三维图像的Technicolor, 黑色和白色, 有雾或清除.
  • 听觉记忆: Sounds like music, 呼吸, 车门关闭, 脚步.
  • 情感记忆: Feelings of distress, 绝望, 愤怒, 恐怖, 害怕, 危险或完全缺乏感情 (麻木).
  • 记忆体: Physical sensations including pain, 恶心, 作呕的感觉, 吞咽困难, feeling restricted, difficulty breathing.
  • 感官记忆: Experiences such as particular smells or tastes.

当闪回发生, 目前往往成为困惑与过去: 你可以感受到失控, 像你快要疯了. 针对这些令人痛心的回忆的人可以发展呼吸困难, 遇到头晕, 迷失方向, 肌张力, 跳动的心脏, 震动和注意力无法集中. 倒叙可以让你感到恐惧, 困惑和苦恼. 他们可以干扰你的生活中,他们可以鼓励你,以避免人, 与之相关的地方和活动.

我知道发生了虐待过 20 几年前, 但觉得我是在房间里与她, 气味, 恐惧的混乱组合, 恐慌和激动. 我呆住了。”

有些问题的人应该知道的

是什么让倒叙特别困难的男性承认和处理是不切实际的想法,男人应该永远是在控制自己的身体,并能应付任何事情. 这个可以有男人不仅有处理不请自来的倒叙, 但评估和被倒在自己没有管理好, 看到它的评论对他们某种作为一个男人. 显示为没有过去的事件的任何明确的存储器的情绪响应闪流的类型可以是在这方面是特别麻烦.

有什么可以帮?

很多人的工作与应对倒叙出自己的路, 但这里有一些想法,你可能会发现有用:

  • 找一个安全安静的地方,你可以坐下来.
  • 告诉自己,你有一个闪回, 这是从过去的记忆,并且你可以照顾好自己在本.
  • 请记住,你可以选择是否记住和重新感受.
  • 你可能想对自己说:“我会让内存擦肩而过。”
  • 缓慢地深呼吸. 从了解你的横膈膜呼吸; 把你的手有略低于肚脐呼吸,让你的手被压向上和向下. 通常当我们感到惊讶或害怕, 我们呼吸更迅速,减少我们的氧气摄入量. 缺氧可增强恐慌情绪: 它可能会导致冲击在头部, 紧张, 淡淡的感觉, 颤抖和眩晕. 如果算上慢到五年,你呼, 这将有助于减缓你的呼吸下来,将生理你平静.
  • 想象一下,你看到的图像在电视屏幕上. 把声音降, 再次打开它, 然后关掉电视,让影像消失.
  • 积极地在自己的本:
  • 跺跺你的脚; 磨身边的地板上,以提醒自己你现在在哪里.
  • 环顾四周, 注意到正在发生的事情在你的附近: 命名人, 地方, 家具, 土地的业外, 颜色, 图案, 等.
  • 听周围的声音: 交通, 声音, 该洗衣机, 等.
  • 觉得自己的身体, 注意一下你正坐在, 你的衣服, 感觉椅子或地板上支撑你.
  • 如果倒叙尤为常见, 它可以是一个有用的策略总是穿不存在当年项目, 事地在你目前的生活, 手表, 闪存驱动器, 彩色手腕带.
  • 将注意力集中在记忆的东西充满挑战, 如歌词特定歌曲, 朋友生日或最喜欢的诗.
  • Actively bring your awareness into the present by gently 'pinging' 在你的手腕带, 通过在你的脸上泼水, 通过包装自己温暖的东西 – 所诱发的生理感觉是从本, 闪回的内容是从过去的.
获得支持

这可能是有用的,让你身边的人了解倒叙以及它们如何工作, 这样就可以得到支持. 朋友可以帮助你减缓呼吸, 和你说话, 让你一个温暖的饮料. 其目的是帮助本重新在安全和支持的方式.

善待自己

在经历了闪回,你可能要休息或分散自己的注意力了,而, 有睡眠, 热饮, 放松心情,听听音乐, 看电视, 玩电脑游戏, 做一些园艺或只是需要一些安静的时间为您. 支持和鼓励自己的话更有可能帮助你处理倒叙不是质疑和评估自己.

注意: 虽然倒叙往往是非常不受欢迎的访客在你的生活, 有时他们可以带出了填补空白在你的记忆中存在的信息和感受. 有些人已经描述了他们是如何在拼图中提供的“片’ ,帮助他们做出更好的感觉发生了什么. 找一个受过训练的辅导员谁可以提供支持,并与你有关的倒叙工作,继续你的生活就值得考虑.

将持续闪回自己的地方

如果内存是已知的,接受你的生活经验的一部分是不太可能打扰你的存在, 即使事件被打乱,你希望它从未发生. 是什么让倒叙特别困难的是,他们会带给你惊喜, 看来显然是从哪儿冒出来的部分记忆体或其中你以前有有限的回忆事件的闪烁. 如果这些记忆不断出现且越来越在你的生活你的生活的方式, 它可以是有用的工作,如何来你有这些特定的事件或这些人的闪回,现在?

在“触发/秒的意识’ 刺激这些倒叙可以是有用, 中,它使存储器的外观可以理解 – “你不是快要疯了。”

当你感到安全, 支持和放松, 你可能会发现它很有用考虑或写下

  • 发生了什么事,当内存出现?
  • 当时你在哪里? 谁是围绕? 什么是你的感觉/想法, 闻/听觉/视宁/传感?
  • 这是否涉及到的事件在你的过去?

有时什么引发了闪回可立即可见 (就像开车过去的老同学, 做爱). 但, 有些难受的记忆可以通过在环境变化较大触发 (开始的关系, 结婚或合作伙伴成为父母). 它们也可以与特定的感觉如相关的恐惧或恐慌. 通过注意可能的触发器和它们如何在你的生活是与以前的事件相关联的记忆变得可以理解. 如果再相同的闪回再次出现,你不需要花时间与它超出登记它的存在 – 你知道它,它是指 – 现在,你可以专注于照顾自己的本.

把精力投入到你的生活中,本

如前所述, 通常当一个闪回出现,你可以做的最好的事情是要注意它的外观, 平静和放松自己, 然后把你的精力投入到做什么对你很重要 – 你的生活在目前的. 下面是一些实际的问题,可以帮助减少倒叙的影响,维持一家专注于目前:

  • 怎么我现在我不同谁被虐待或殴打的人?
  • 怎么老现在我是? 我在哪里生活/工作现在?
  • 做什么选择我,现在我没有那么?
  • 我可以向谁寻求支持和鼓励?
  • 怎么我喜欢把我的时间?
  • 在哪里我希望把我的精力现在?

注意: 如果倒叙坚持打扰你的生活, 这是值得寻找一个训练有素的辅导员谁提供的信息, 支持和鼓励你.

鸣谢: 创建参照布里斯班性侵害犯罪服务讲义“管理闪回’ 和男性幸存者服务教育备品管理协会安大略省倒叙里克·古德温开发, MSW RSW of The Men's Project, 2004.

 

31 评论

  1. 安迪评论

    安迪 回复 十二月 11, 2015 4:07 上

    我喜欢这个非常 .
    该要点帮助 .
    我想听到有人在一个小的电影剪辑交谈。或者显示移动

  2. 安吉拉·施密特评论

    安吉拉·施密特 回复 十二月 16, 2015 3:53 上

    这是非常有益的与客户分享.

    谢谢!!

  3. 通过阿里鸟评论

    阿里鸟 回复 一月 11, 2016 11:02 上

    该读数非常出色,并放在一起. 但是看完这是很难. 读它带来了AMD IT方面的闪回我睁不开眼. 我非常生气这样的事情仍然可以有一个缓缴我. 任何人读这曾经有这种事发生. 任何有识之士将不胜感激. 谢谢.

    • 娜塔莎评论

      娜塔莎 回复 一月 19, 2016 9:46 下午

      写得很好,呈现一块写. 真正有见地; 谢谢.

      注意阿里鸟: I am sorry to read that you too still suffer. As for the feelings of anger, I believe that to be a natural response; it plagues my life more than I like to admit. My triggers change as my recovery and processing of my trauma does. Things that never were a recognised trigger for me, like the sensation of sitting on my bed with the bare carpet under my feet, surface, while things that I felt physically intolerant of, like wearing scarves, no longer affect me in the same way. I have so much more work to do still, but am happy to reach out again if I can be of any help. :) Wishing you peace and lasting wholeness.

  4. Comment by Kris

    Kris 回复 三月 5, 2016 5:07 上

    I think the anger you feel is completely understandable. And flashbacks never make an appointment with you beforehand, that’s for sure! You’re so right about being side-blinded. The shock sometimes takes my breath away. In my own case, my flashbacks have been like different pieces or fragments of the abuse coming together to form a fuller picture. I think that may be why it’s possible to feel upset and angry that it still has a hold on us, because the memories can’t always be dealt with in one Perhaps (I’m only offering a suggestion) the flashbacks still surface because you’re stillprocessingcertain parts of your memories and/or emotions associated with the abuse. You must be compassionate with yourself. There is absolutely no weakness in our feelings, our fear, 恐怖. We have gone tgrough so much and are strong and brave to face it. All best wishes.

  5. Comment by cb

    cb 回复 三月 6, 2016 2:10 下午

    我 37 and male.

    Been dealing with these things at varying intensity for around 27 岁月. The worst are when I’m lying in bed. They can feel so real at times and I often react as if it’s happening now. I feel so crazy because I know I’m fighting a phantom, but I still end up feeling so violated when the episode ends.

    At some point, whether it’s a few seconds or more, I’m eventually able to scream out something likeYou’re not real” 或 “it’s 2016, not 1988.I live alone so I’m not disturbing anyone when this happens, but then I realize I’m alone because I’m disturbed.

    • 由杰西评论 [生活好员工]

      桎梏 [生活好员工] 回复 三月 14, 2016 9:58 上

      Hi CB,
      Thanks for coming forward and sharing your story. I know that isn’t easy.

      It’s awesome that you’re seeking information, and sharing some strategies that works for you. I think our page on 接地演习 might also be helpful for dealing with flashbacks and bringing you back to the present moment.

      I think though that when you’ve been through something as traumatic as sexual abuse, it is the situation that is disturbing / disturbed, not you.

      I’d like to invite you to check out our partners in the USA: https://1in6.org/. They’ll have more support and info relevant to you.

      Best of luck in your journey.

      • Comment by grader

        grader 回复 五月 9, 2016 8:48 下午

        嗨,您好 !! please can anyone help me. i am getting flashbacks whenever i see a dog!! dogs are everywhere.. when i was in grade 9 … i changed school branches (but same school ) … and i earned a nickname dog . so in grade 9 为 5-6 months it was worse. i feard if my friend would tell that nickname to othersi got support from a friend in grade 10 但他didntknew我有这样可怕的绰号. 在等级 10 部分改变,但谁给我的绰号小子stiillin的sameclass .. 虽然有来自朋友的支持我担心如果孩子会spreadmynickname遍…. 这样的生活是令人痛心的那些nearlt2年… 我的成绩受到影响… 我认为… 我主要是言语欺凌受害者,但并不是物理 … 所以是谁能帮助我 .. 如何应付它….. 我想感谢üsomuch为givingme任何建议… 所以是现在我已经快完成了我的等级 12 但这些仍然 2 多年绰号调用的倒叙我 …..

    • Comment by sam

      回复 二月 26, 2017 4:34 下午

      Hi CB,

      我 33 and male.

      I can really relate to whats happening with you , its real bad and staying alone is also no good but its comforting in dark hours. I would suggest that keep yourself involved in activities that brightens your soul. Dont torture yourself any more, the perpetrators needs to feel sorry.

      I would like to see u more happy, mental and physical stronger and more happening. We dont know what happens afterlife , dont burn in old memories , u dont know whether human life gifted to you will be awarded again or not. Take it as phase of life and love your gift of life.

      FLY HIGH AND REJOICE

      Love
      山姆

  6. 通过Ambz评论

    Ambz 回复 四月 25, 2016 1:54 下午

    这是有益的. 我曾经得到倒叙了很多,但我出来的时候发生了什么, 他们逐渐停止. 我刚才被抓了gaurd (多年后) 我不知道该怎么办. I was having a physical and emotional flashback. This page helped me understand that these flashbacks are normal even though they arent visual. I was also able to explain this to my partner easily so he understood how to help me. 谢谢.
    One thing though. While reading the examples for the typesof flashbacks, I was triggered more. I think they are important but maybe put a warning or have it so that you click a button to view them. They did help me feel like Im not alone with what I feel.

    • 由杰西评论 [生活好员工]

      桎梏 [生活好员工] 回复 四月 29, 2016 10:12 上

      Thanks so much Ambz for your feedback. We’re always totally open to it. I’ve added a content warning and altered some of the language a bit.

      • Comment by Erika

        Erika 回复 十一月 28, 2016 2:51 上

        I have flashbacks every time I hear the r word after going through a horrible assultwhen I was 19 and in college. Even when I hear his name. 我现在是 31 and trying to get over this chapter in my life is so hard to do. I was beaten and drugged during this abusive relationship to, any advice on how to get over this would be greatly appreciated

        • Comment by Erika

          Erika 回复 十一月 28, 2016 2:55 上

          I experienced the assault when I was 19

  7. Comment by James Smith

    James Smith 回复 六月 9, 2016 12:25 下午

    I suffer from flashbacks a lot. I’ve been dealing with them through my psychologist, however things still trigger me, like slamming doors, smell of the classroom, smell of books. People coming up and touching me from behind just on the shoulder will trigger me, people invading my space or being startled while sleeping. I think being startled while sleeping is the worst one ever. You should be safe, and feel safe while sleeping, but when you get startled by a slamming door, or any other thing that can wake you, it takes me hours to get back to sleep.

    I’ve tried a lot of things over the years but very little helps stop my flashbacks. There are four of us being abused at the same time, very violent, very sexual and very verbally abused. The only thing I can do is remind the child in me that nobody will ever hurt him again. that I do believe is the best advice my psychologist has ever given me. I find it works the best to calm myself down and get over a flashback quicker.

    It took me a long time, 以上 20 years to be exact; it was 27 years before I was willing to deal with it. I know there are videos of the abuse happening. I’ll never be able to get rid of them.

    I was given the opportunity to get help at no cost from my group here in Calgary Alberta. I am so thankful and grateful that that group is able to help men deal with childhood sexual assault. This is the first time I personally talked about this to anybody other than my psychologist. The group I am involved with is cc4ms. You can get help, all you need to do is ask.

    • 由杰西评论 [生活好员工]

      桎梏 [生活好员工] 回复 六月 10, 2016 10:24 上

      Thanks James for sharing your story with us. It is a powerful one, and it seems that you are able to share some very wise words here as a result:

      Support is available. You don’t need to go through this alone.

      We believe that to be true as well.. and actually you have kind of proven it to be true by sharing some of your experiences with us, including a quite helpful strategy for getting through flashbacks.

      Care for your inner child. Tell him the things you know he needed to hear all those years ago. You can be there for him now.

      Best of luck on your continuing journey, 詹姆斯.

  8. Comment by Tana

    Tana 回复 七月 4, 2016 2:24 上

    I recently started having flashbacks of sexual assault. It truly took me off guard while I was driving down the road, I don’t even know why or what triggered them, but I had to pull over and throw up. The whole rest of the night I couldn’t sleep because every time I closed my eyes more memories would come flooding back and I would feel as if I can’t breathe.
    I tried to keep myself as busy as possible for a few days but they flood my mind all the time. I have questioned my mom on a few details (but haven’t told her) and she has confirmed that details of certain things in my flashbacks are indeed real, which scares me even more.
    This is all so new to me and I hoping some of these tips help me get my emotions and life back.

  9. Comment by Kymmie

    Kymmie 回复 七月 12, 2016 11:13 下午

    As difficult as these articles are to read they are real eye openers into my coping mechanisms and behaviours. I have quite a few different flashbacks that occur as I was abused for about 4 years as a child, maybe more but I don’t remember. I then have a memory as a 12 yr old getting attacked again by the same person but thankfully being strong enough to say no. He commented on my boobs so I have a huge problem with them during intimacy. Mostly my flashbacks occur during sex or foreplay more so foreplay. I have adopted the technique of running my hands through my husbands hair and feeling his ears etc when these traumatic memories strike. My husband knows I do this and knows that I’m just trying to bring myself back to feeling safe knowing that its him. He also knows that there are particular things and words during sex and forplay that can trigger memories so he stares clear of those.
    I haven’t been completely transparent with my husband though. I do have serious communication and intimacy issues that still need work but I’m glad I found this website. Even though its based around men being abused 95% of it all is relating to me.

  10. Comment by Joseph Leonard

    Joseph Leonard 回复 七月 31, 2016 10:00 下午

    i still have flashbacks up till this moment, but i can’t explain or find how to deal with it. mine isnt like a flash back, sometimes i feel i have seen the present before. for example there are incidents that happen in the present and i have seen them in my past, or had flashbacks of themthe truth is sometimes i don’t really understand what it meansmy imagination drives me crazy.

    • 由杰西评论 [生活好员工]

      桎梏 [生活好员工] 回复 八月 31, 2016 2:28 下午

      Hi Joseph,

      Thanks for getting in touch with us.

      The difficulty with flashbacks is that they can leave you profoundly disoriented. Flashbacks are a really individual experience, they can be quite different for everyone, and one person can experience different types of flashback.

      A feature of flashbacks is that they mess with your sense of time, so that you can be in present and experience a rush of thoughts, 景点, 声音, tastes and feelings that may be related in some way to the past, or a series of events that have happened at different times in your life. This is inherently unsettling and confusing and can be so difficult to make sense of.

      Flashbacks might be like you describe, where you are experiencing something in the present and have a sense that you have experienced this before. This is sometimes known as a sense of ‘déjà vu’, which translates from the French as ‘already seen’.

      Although there seems to be a kind of invitation to spend time with these flashbacks and try and work out what they mean or what they relate to, the best thing to do at the time is to reconnect to your present surroundings. 一 grounding exercise of some kind can be really useful for bringing yourself back to the present moment. So can certain mindfulness exercises, like paying close attention to something in your immediate environment. An example is to stop, slow down, and notice what’s happening around you. What can you see, 触摸, or hear? Pick out one thing, like the ticking of a clock, or the traffic going by. Zoom all of your attention in on that sound and really pay attention to it. Whenever your thoughts or something else distracts you, just pull your attention back to that one thing.

      If the flashbacks persist, or are causing you stress, we would recommend seeing a counsellor who understands how to address trauma. Check out our list of worldwide online services.
      Take care Joseph.

      • Comment by Amy Lootens

        Amy Lootens 回复 十月 12, 2016 12:40 上

        桎梏, The problem with the flashbacks that feel like present that you are now experiencing is when it was other people telling you what would happen to you later and they were right. Grassroots terrorism.

  11. Comment by wendy

    wendy 回复 十一月 11, 2016 10:27 上

    This is very useful for females as well thanks ;) I started having intense flashbacks about sexual assaults I experienced when i was 10, i’m now 46. I am beginning to realise a big trigger for me is going to my daughters primary schoolit smells like my old primary school, feels like it, and i was in year 5 和 6 when the assaults occurred. thanks for the articlevery helpful :)

  12. Comment by elontra

    elontra 回复 十二月 2, 2016 2:47 下午

    i was sexual abused from a family member and it was last year right before Christmas, and then I tried to kill my self. now that time of year is coming around again. I am having sever flash back and crying eposides.

    • Comment by Brenton [生活好员工]

      Brenton [生活好员工] 回复 一月 24, 2017 12:14 下午

      Hi Elontra,

      Thank you for your comment and reaching out for help.

      Anniversaries and the surrounding time of traumatic events can be tough. There are a couple of things you can do to ensure your safety.

      Plan ahead for the traumatic period. Since for you it occurred around Christmas, you might consider whether you find work a distraction or a burden. Some people find work allows them to keep busy and not focus too much on the memories, whilst some people prefer to take time off and reduce external stressors.

      On planning you might link in with a therapist earlier in the year and work on a plan for what to do when Christmas rolls around. Another option is to find a therapist who specialises in sexual abuse and begin working on addressing some of the issues.

      Some other questions to consider include, do you have any friends or family you feel safe around? If so you might let them know you struggle around this time of year, and invite them to touch base with you over this period. It can be helpful to have a list of activities you can engage in to self sooth.

      Please take care of yourself, Elontra.

  13. Comment by Jayne Mills

    Jayne Mills 回复 十二月 4, 2016 8:46 下午

    I have flashbacks once I’ve fallen asleep and although once I’m awake I eventually manage to ground myself , I now fear sleep as that is when I tend to have the flashbacks. Can you suggest anything I can do before I go to sleep that might avert the flashbacks ? It’s difficult to control them if I’m asleep when they happen, I find them easier to deal with when Im awake..

  14. Comment by Moe

    Moe 回复 一月 22, 2017 7:01 上

    Thank you very much for this write up. I’ve learned some pretty good ways of dealing with my flashbacks. I like sitting in the bathroom sometimes and just sitting on the toilet doing nothing. In the dark. It really helps me as the flashback comes and then goes.
    IDKY, something about the cold and being in a small room.

  15. Comment by FrAnk

    FrAnk 回复 三月 25, 2017 5:23 下午

    I have this girl I hate so much..because she neglected me because of her boyfriend I hate her as much as I like herI stopped talk to her for a while and i spoke to her yesterday hope the hatred and angry would leave me me..but I still became more angry I keep having flashbacks and rembering every word I said to her and how weak I sounded..although she apologized for what she did to mebut I felt she wasn’t sorry because she said she’s sorry for what she put me through because I felt saying sorry was right for that particular context or momenti keep trying to imagine ..how better it would feel if I didn’t talk to her yesterday..I feel i opened my self too much to her ..and she knows more about me than I know about her ..at this point I regret meeting her in the first place..am still angry and uncomfortable..she might think everything is cool because she has apologized but I am sure that if I see her I will walk past her and not say a wordbecause right now as I can type this I can still remember the pain she put me through the exact feeling everything..like I am reliving it each passing day..I nev wan think about it but I just sit and get flashbacks about it and the worst is I don’t have control over my totsthe take control of me and rule me ..

  16. Comment by londy

    londy 回复 四月 15, 2017 5:50 上

    I think this sounds crazy, I was raped 7 years ago but sometimes I have rape memories (倒叙), it happened long time ago but I still suffer.

  17. Comment by MC

    MC 回复 六月 8, 2017 1:24 上

    I just experienced an intense flashback that brought me back to a room where something happened and my fear made me over-react I think. It made me very confused. Like it made me feel exactly how I felt that day.
    谢谢. 35 男性

  18. Comment by PJ

    PJ 回复 七月 17, 2017 1:43 下午

    I am in a new relationship with a woman and she was severely abused in ways I couldn’t imagine could happen. It is helpful to hear other people’s story and I can see similarities to her experience.

    Thanks for the tips! I will discuss them with her and see if I can help her when she gets triggered. It also helps me understand somewhat her horrific experiences

  19. Comment by Angie

    Angie 回复 七月 30, 2017 4:03 上

    I was raped 30 years ago and it still comes back to haunt me. I’ve stared counselling again after 10 years of feeling fine! The biggest thing I have learnt so far after 4 sessions is the power of breathing. Breathe from your abdomen and do it 3 或 4 times an hour , in through the nose and out through the mouth……. when you do it well it relaxes you, aids sleep, makes the flashbacks less powerful and in my case controls my comfort eatingjust through slow deep breathing! And it’s completely free!

  20. Comment by Sam

    山姆 回复 九月 15, 2017 8:34 上

    This was helpful but hard to read all at once for me personally. Although this has warnings the flashbacks triggered it’s my own fault for reading on but I felt like it’s something I needed to read. I have a therapist now and we are slowly making progress but I can’t reveal the full details to her and I won’t be giving too much detail on this but nothing can stop the flash backs, the feeling trapped, 惊慌, feeling as though i am anything from 7-14 years old depending on the flashback, the heavy breathing, feeling crazy then the anger, feeling I am nothing as the words they were one of the main this that was said to me back then. I have I’ve had 14 years of them now I’m 28 and people say it will get better and you hear these stories of people being like they are cured are bullshit to me and I’m sorry but this is how I feel and for me you may be able to learn to deal and cope with them by understanding and accepting them but I understand them and I accept it happened but it still hurts like fuuuuuck and I can’t cope with the severity and volume I have to experience I just wish I could erase my memories from that age so I’d never know it happened and then I could be normal..sorry didn’t plan on saying all this it just kind of came out

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