출구

If you have experienced flashbacks in the past, please take care while reading this page. Some examples may be triggering.

I was travelling along okay and then 'BANG', from nowhere, I was straight back there. It spun me out. I had no idea what was happening."

소개

Flashbacks can hit like lightningMany men who have experienced sexual abuse are subjected to flashbacks. Flashbacks appear as memories or fragments of memories from recent or past events. They can be jarring, painful and disruptive. 플래시백은 몇 개의 간단한 초를 지속 또는 광범위한 메모리 리콜을 포함 할 수있다. 그들은 밤이나 낮이나 발생할 수 있습니다, 당신은 깨어 또는 자고과 놀라움에 의해 완전히 당신을 데려 갈 수있을 때. 그들은 첫 번째 사람이 될 수 있습니다 (당신이 거기있는 것처럼 어디 느낀다, 보는 당신의 눈을 통해 사물을 경험) 또는 제삼자 (여기서 당신은 당신이 주인공되는 영화를보고있는 것처럼 될 수 있습니다). 때때로 플래시백이의 이벤트를 재생할 수 있습니다 이전에 몰랐던 또는 긴 잊었다.

플래시백은 여러 형태를 취할 수:

  • 비주얼 추억: Images, 세 가지 차원 천연색 이미지, 검정색과 흰색, 안개 또는 명확한.
  • 청각 기억: Sounds like music, 호흡, 종료 문, 발자취.
  • 감정적 추억: Feelings of distress, 절망, 격노, 공포, 공포, 위험 또는 감정의 전체 부족 (마비).
  • 바디 추억: Physical sensations including pain, 구역질, 커억 감각, 어려움을 삼키는, feeling restricted, difficulty breathing.
  • 감각 기억: Experiences such as particular smells or tastes.

플래시백 경우가 발생, 본은 종종 과거와 혼동된다: 당신은 통제에서 느낄 수있다, 같은 당신은 미친거야. 사람들이 호흡 곤란을 개발할 수 있습니다 이러한 비참한 기억에 대응, 경험 현기증, 방향 감각 상실, 근육 긴장, 두근 거리는 마음, 떨고 못하는 것은 집중. 플래시백은 무서운 느낌을 남길 수 있습니다, 혼란과 고민. 그들은 사람들을 방지하는 것이 좋습니다 수 있다는 점에서 그들은 당신의 인생을 방해 할 수 있습니다, 그와 연관된 활동에 대한.

나는 학대가 일어난 알고 20 년 전, 나는 그녀와 함께 방에 있었던 것처럼하지만 느꼈다, 냄새, 공포의 혼란을 혼합, 공포와 흥분. 난 그냥 얼어 붙었다.”

일부 문제의 남자는 알고 있어야합니다

사람들이 인정하고있다 남성은 항상 자신의 신체의 제어 및 아무것도에 대처할 수에 있어야한다는 비현실적인 생각을 처리하는 플래시백 특히 어렵게 만들 수있는 것. 이 남자는 초대받지 않은 플래시백 처리 할 필요가 없습니다 수 있습니다, 하지만 평가하고 더 나은 관리를하지 않는 자신에 다운되는, 사람으로 그들에 논평의 일종으로 보는. 과거 사건의 명확한 메모리없이 감정적 반응으로 나타납니다 플래시백의 유형은이 점에서 특히 골칫거리가 될 수.

어떻게 도움이 될 수 있습니다?

많은 사람들은 플래시백에 대처하는 그들의 자신의 방법을 작동, 그러나 여기에서 당신이 유용하게 사용할 수있는 몇 가지 아이디어:

  • Find a safe quiet place where you can sit down.
  • Tell yourself that you are having a flashback, that this is a memory from the past and that you can take care of yourself in the present.
  • Remember that you can choose whether to remember and re-feel.
  • You might want to say to yourself “I’ll let that memory pass by.
  • Breathe slowly and deeply. Learn to breathe from your diaphragm; put your hand there just below your navel and breathe so that your hand gets pushed up and down. Often when we are surprised or scared, we breathe more rapidly and reduce our oxygen intake. Lack of oxygen can enhance feelings of panic: it can result in pounding in the head, 죄 어져 있음, feeling faint, shakiness and dizziness. If you count slowly to five as you breathe out, 그것은 당신의 호흡을 느리게 도움이 될 것입니다 및 생리 학적으로 당신을 진정 것.
  • 당신이 볼 수있는 이미지를 TV 화면에 있는지 상상. 아래로 소리를 켜, 다시 올려, 다음 이미지가 사라질 정도로 TV를 끄면.
  • 적극적으로 본 자신을 접지:
  • 발을 스탬프; 당신은 지금 어디에 자신을 생각 나게하는 바닥에 그들 주위에 갈기.
  • 주위를 둘러보다, 당신의 바로 근처에 무슨 일이 일어나고 있는지 알: 사람들의 이름을, 그 장소, 가구, 땅의 평신도, 색상, 패턴, 등.
  • 주변의 소리를 들어 봐: 교통, 목소리, 세탁기, 등.
  • 당신의 몸을 느껴, 당신이 앉아있는 방법을 알 수, 옷, 의자 또는 바닥을 지원하는 느낌.
  • 플래시백은 특히 일반적인 경우, 항상 다시 존재하지 않는 아이템을 착용 할 수있는 유용한 전략이 될 수 있습니다, 현재의 삶에서 당신을 접지 일, 시계, 플래쉬 드라이브, 컬러 손목 밴드.
  • 도전 무언가를 기억에주의를 집중, 이러한 특정 노래에 가사로, 친구의 생일이나 좋아하는시.
  • Actively bring your awareness into the present by gently 'pinging' 손목에 밴드, 당신의 얼굴에 물이 튀는로, 따뜻한 무언가에 자신을 포장하여 – 유발하는 물리적 감각은 본 출신, 플래시백의 함유량은 과거 내지.
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그것은 당신의 주위에 사람들이 플래시백에 대해 알려 유용 할 수 있습니다 그들은 어떻게 작업 할 수 있습니다, 그래서 당신은 지원을받을 수 있음. 친구는 당신이 당신의 호흡을 느리게하는 데 도움이 될 수 있습니다, 할 얘기가, 당신에게 따뜻한 음료를 얻을 수 있습니다. 목적은 안전하고 지원적인 방법으로 본으로 다시 연결하는 것입니다.

자신에게 친절

After experiencing a flashback you might want to rest or distract yourself for a while, have a sleep, a warm drink, relax and listen to some music, watch TV, play a computer game, do some gardening or just take some quiet time for you. Words of support and encouragement to yourself are more likely to help you deal with flashbacks than questioning and evaluating yourself.

주의: Although flashbacks can often be very unwelcome visitors in your life, sometimes they can bring forth information and feelings that fill in gaps that existed in your memory. Some men have described how they provided the ‘piece in the jigsawthat helped them make better sense of what happened. 지원을 제공하고 플래시백 관련하여 당신과 함께 일을하고 당신의 생활에 점점 고려 가치가 할 수있는 훈련 된 카운슬러 찾기.

자신의 자리에서 지속적인 플래시백 퍼팅

메모리가 당신의 인생 경험의 한 부분으로 알려진 승인되면 본에서 당신을 귀찮게 할 가능성이 적습니다, 이벤트가 열받은이고 당신이 원하는 경우에도이 일어난 적이 없었다. 무엇 플래시백 특히 어렵게 만들 수있는 것은 그들이 당신을 놀라게 할 수 있다는 것입니다, 분명히 일부 메모리와 같은 난데없이 또는 이전에 제한된 기억이 있던 이벤트의 점멸로 표시. 이러한 기억은 다시 나타나지 유지하고 당신의 인생을 살고있는 당신의 길을 받고 있다면, it can be useful to work out how come you are having flashbacks about these particular events or these people right now?

An awareness of the ‘trigger/sthat stimulate these flashbacks can be useful, in that it makes the appearance of the memory understandable“You’re not going crazy.

When you are feeling safe, supported and relaxed, you might find it useful to consider or write down

  • What was happening when the memory appeared?
  • Where were you? Who was around? What were you feeling/thinking, smelling/hearing/seeing/sensing?
  • Does this relate to an event in your past?

Sometime what has triggered a flashback can be immediately visible (like driving past your old school, having sex). 그러나, some uncomfortable memories can be triggered by larger changes in circumstances (starting a relationship, 결혼 또는 파트너와 부모가되는 지). 그들은 또한 공포 또는 공황 같은 특정 감정과 관련 될 수있다. 그들이 당신의 생활에 이전 이벤트와 관련 될 수있는 방법을 가능한 트리거를 몰래함으로써 및 관련 메모리는 이해가된다. 다음 같은 플래시백가 다시 나타나면 당신은 그것의 존재를 등록 넘어 함께 시간을 보낼 필요가 없습니다 – 당신은 그것을 알고 무엇 그것은을 의미 – 지금은 현재에 자신을 돌보는에 초점을 맞출 수 있습니다.

본에있는 당신의 삶에 에너지를 넣어

이전 바와 같이, 자주 플래시백가 발생했을 때 당신이 할 수있는 가장 좋은 모양을주의하는 것입니다, 진정 자신을 긴장, 다음에 중요한 것이 무엇인지 일에 에너지를 넣어 – 본에있는 당신의 생활을. Below are some practical questions that can help diminish the influence of flashbacks by maintaining a focus on the present:

  • How am I different now from the person who was abused or assaulted?
  • How old am I now? Where do I live/work now?
  • What options do I have now that I didn’t have then?
  • Who can I ask for support and encouragement?
  • How do I like to spend my time?
  • Where do I want to put my energy now?

주의: If flashbacks persist in interrupting your life, it is worth locating a trained counsellor who will provide information, support and encouragement to you.

감사의 글: Created with reference to Brisbane Sexual Assault Service Handout ‘Managing Flashbacksand Ontario Association of Male Survivor Services Educational Materials MANAGING FLASHBACKS developed by Rick Goodwin, MSW RSW of The Men's Project, 2004.

 

31 comments

  1. Comment by andy

    andy 대답 12 월 11, 2015 4:07 오전

    I liked this very much .
    The bullet points helped .
    I would like to hear someone talking in a little film clip .or a display moving

  2. Comment by Angela Schmidt

    Angela Schmidt 대답 12 월 16, 2015 3:53 오전

    This was very helpful to share with clients.

    THANKYOU!!

  3. Comment by Aly bird

    Aly bird 대답 January 11, 2016 11:02 오전

    This reading was very well done and put together. But reading it was hard. Reading it brought the flashback on amd it side blinded me. I got very angry that something like this could still have a hold over me. Anyone reading this ever have this happen. Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

    • 나타샤에 의해 코멘트

      나타샤 대답 January 19, 2016 9:46 오후

      Very well written and presented piece of writing. Really insightful; 고맙습니다.

      Note to Aly Bird: I am sorry to read that you too still suffer. As for the feelings of anger, I believe that to be a natural response; it plagues my life more than I like to admit. My triggers change as my recovery and processing of my trauma does. Things that never were a recognised trigger for me, like the sensation of sitting on my bed with the bare carpet under my feet, surface, while things that I felt physically intolerant of, like wearing scarves, no longer affect me in the same way. I have so much more work to do still, but am happy to reach out again if I can be of any help. :) Wishing you peace and lasting wholeness.

  4. Comment by Kris

    Kris 대답 행진 5, 2016 5:07 오전

    I think the anger you feel is completely understandable. And flashbacks never make an appointment with you beforehand, that’s for sure! You’re so right about being side-blinded. The shock sometimes takes my breath away. In my own case, my flashbacks have been like different pieces or fragments of the abuse coming together to form a fuller picture. I think that may be why it’s possible to feel upset and angry that it still has a hold on us, because the memories can’t always be dealt with in one Perhaps (I’m only offering a suggestion) the flashbacks still surface because you’re stillprocessingcertain parts of your memories and/or emotions associated with the abuse. You must be compassionate with yourself. There is absolutely no weakness in our feelings, our fear, 공포. We have gone tgrough so much and are strong and brave to face it. All best wishes.

  5. Comment by cb

    cb 대답 행진 6, 2016 2:10 오후

    I’m 37 and male.

    Been dealing with these things at varying intensity for around 27 년. The worst are when I’m lying in bed. They can feel so real at times and I often react as if it’s happening now. I feel so crazy because I know I’m fighting a phantom, but I still end up feeling so violated when the episode ends.

    At some point, whether it’s a few seconds or more, I’m eventually able to scream out something likeYou’re not real” 또는 “it’s 2016, not 1988.I live alone so I’m not disturbing anyone when this happens, but then I realize I’m alone because I’m disturbed.

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      발목 끈 [생활 잘 직원] 대답 행진 14, 2016 9:58 오전

      Hi CB,
      Thanks for coming forward and sharing your story. I know that isn’t easy.

      It’s awesome that you’re seeking information, and sharing some strategies that works for you. I think our page on grounding exercises might also be helpful for dealing with flashbacks and bringing you back to the present moment.

      I think though that when you’ve been through something as traumatic as sexual abuse, it is the situation that is disturbing / disturbed, not you.

      I’d like to invite you to check out our partners in the USA: https://1in6.org/. They’ll have more support and info relevant to you.

      Best of luck in your journey.

      • Comment by grader

        grader 대답 할 수 있다 9, 2016 8:48 오후

        안녕 !! please can anyone help me. i am getting flashbacks whenever i see a dog!! dogs are everywhere.. when i was in grade 9 … i changed school branches (but same school ) … and i earned a nickname dog . so in grade 9 용 5-6 months it was worse. i feard if my friend would tell that nickname to othersi got support from a friend in grade 10 but he didntknew that i had that horrible nickname. in grade 10 section changed but the kid who gave me nickname was stiillin the sameclass .. although there was support from that friend i feared if the kid would spreadmynickname all over…. so life was distressing for those nearlt two yearsmy grade was affectedi thinki was mostly victim of verbal bullying but not of physicalso yeah can anyone help me .. how to cope with it….. i would thank u somuch for givingme any suggestionso yeah now i have nearly finished my grade 12 but still those 2 years of nickname calling flashbacks me …..

    • Comment by sam

      sam 대답 2월 26, 2017 4:34 오후

      Hi CB,

      I’m 33 and male.

      I can really relate to whats happening with you , its real bad and staying alone is also no good but its comforting in dark hours. I would suggest that keep yourself involved in activities that brightens your soul. Dont torture yourself any more, the perpetrators needs to feel sorry.

      I would like to see u more happy, mental and physical stronger and more happening. We dont know what happens afterlife , dont burn in old memories , u dont know whether human life gifted to you will be awarded again or not. Take it as phase of life and love your gift of life.

      FLY HIGH AND REJOICE

      Love
      Sam

  6. Comment by Ambz

    Ambz 대답 4월 25, 2016 1:54 오후

    This was helpful. I used to get flashbacks a lot but when I came out about what happened, they gradually stopped. I was caught off gaurd just now (years later) and I didnt know what to do. I was having a physical and emotional flashback. This page helped me understand that these flashbacks are normal even though they arent visual. I was also able to explain this to my partner easily so he understood how to help me. Thank you.
    One thing though. While reading the examples for the typesof flashbacks, I was triggered more. I think they are important but maybe put a warning or have it so that you click a button to view them. They did help me feel like Im not alone with what I feel.

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      발목 끈 [생활 잘 직원] 대답 4월 29, 2016 10:12 오전

      Thanks so much Ambz for your feedback. We’re always totally open to it. I’ve added a content warning and altered some of the language a bit.

      • Comment by Erika

        Erika 대답 11월 28, 2016 2:51 오전

        I have flashbacks every time I hear the r word after going through a horrible assultwhen I was 19 and in college. Even when I hear his name. I am now 31 and trying to get over this chapter in my life is so hard to do. I was beaten and drugged during this abusive relationship to, any advice on how to get over this would be greatly appreciated

        • Comment by Erika

          Erika 대답 11월 28, 2016 2:55 오전

          I experienced the assault when I was 19

  7. Comment by James Smith

    James Smith 대답 June 9, 2016 12:25 오후

    I suffer from flashbacks a lot. I’ve been dealing with them through my psychologist, however things still trigger me, like slamming doors, smell of the classroom, smell of books. People coming up and touching me from behind just on the shoulder will trigger me, people invading my space or being startled while sleeping. I think being startled while sleeping is the worst one ever. You should be safe, and feel safe while sleeping, but when you get startled by a slamming door, or any other thing that can wake you, it takes me hours to get back to sleep.

    I’ve tried a lot of things over the years but very little helps stop my flashbacks. There are four of us being abused at the same time, very violent, very sexual and very verbally abused. The only thing I can do is remind the child in me that nobody will ever hurt him again. that I do believe is the best advice my psychologist has ever given me. I find it works the best to calm myself down and get over a flashback quicker.

    It took me a long time, 위에 20 years to be exact; it was 27 years before I was willing to deal with it. I know there are videos of the abuse happening. I’ll never be able to get rid of them.

    I was given the opportunity to get help at no cost from my group here in Calgary Alberta. I am so thankful and grateful that that group is able to help men deal with childhood sexual assault. This is the first time I personally talked about this to anybody other than my psychologist. The group I am involved with is cc4ms. You can get help, all you need to do is ask.

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      발목 끈 [생활 잘 직원] 대답 June 10, 2016 10:24 오전

      Thanks James for sharing your story with us. It is a powerful one, and it seems that you are able to share some very wise words here as a result:

      Support is available. You don’t need to go through this alone.

      We believe that to be true as well.. and actually you have kind of proven it to be true by sharing some of your experiences with us, including a quite helpful strategy for getting through flashbacks.

      Care for your inner child. Tell him the things you know he needed to hear all those years ago. You can be there for him now.

      Best of luck on your continuing journey, James.

  8. Comment by Tana

    Tana 대답 July 4, 2016 2:24 오전

    I recently started having flashbacks of sexual assault. It truly took me off guard while I was driving down the road, I don’t even know why or what triggered them, but I had to pull over and throw up. The whole rest of the night I couldn’t sleep because every time I closed my eyes more memories would come flooding back and I would feel as if I can’t breathe.
    I tried to keep myself as busy as possible for a few days but they flood my mind all the time. I have questioned my mom on a few details (but haven’t told her) and she has confirmed that details of certain things in my flashbacks are indeed real, which scares me even more.
    This is all so new to me and I hoping some of these tips help me get my emotions and life back.

  9. Comment by Kymmie

    Kymmie 대답 July 12, 2016 11:13 오후

    As difficult as these articles are to read they are real eye openers into my coping mechanisms and behaviours. I have quite a few different flashbacks that occur as I was abused for about 4 years as a child, maybe more but I don’t remember. I then have a memory as a 12 yr old getting attacked again by the same person but thankfully being strong enough to say no. He commented on my boobs so I have a huge problem with them during intimacy. Mostly my flashbacks occur during sex or foreplay more so foreplay. I have adopted the technique of running my hands through my husbands hair and feeling his ears etc when these traumatic memories strike. My husband knows I do this and knows that I’m just trying to bring myself back to feeling safe knowing that its him. He also knows that there are particular things and words during sex and forplay that can trigger memories so he stares clear of those.
    I haven’t been completely transparent with my husband though. I do have serious communication and intimacy issues that still need work but I’m glad I found this website. Even though its based around men being abused 95% of it all is relating to me.

  10. Comment by Joseph Leonard

    Joseph Leonard 대답 July 31, 2016 10:00 오후

    i still have flashbacks up till this moment, but i can’t explain or find how to deal with it. mine isnt like a flash back, sometimes i feel i have seen the present before. for example there are incidents that happen in the present and i have seen them in my past, or had flashbacks of themthe truth is sometimes i don’t really understand what it meansmy imagination drives me crazy.

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      발목 끈 [생활 잘 직원] 대답 August 31, 2016 2:28 오후

      Hi Joseph,

      Thanks for getting in touch with us.

      The difficulty with flashbacks is that they can leave you profoundly disoriented. Flashbacks are a really individual experience, they can be quite different for everyone, and one person can experience different types of flashback.

      A feature of flashbacks is that they mess with your sense of time, so that you can be in present and experience a rush of thoughts, sights, 소리, tastes and feelings that may be related in some way to the past, or a series of events that have happened at different times in your life. This is inherently unsettling and confusing and can be so difficult to make sense of.

      Flashbacks might be like you describe, where you are experiencing something in the present and have a sense that you have experienced this before. This is sometimes known as a sense of ‘déjà vu’, which translates from the French as ‘already seen’.

      Although there seems to be a kind of invitation to spend time with these flashbacks and try and work out what they mean or what they relate to, the best thing to do at the time is to reconnect to your present surroundings. A grounding exercise of some kind can be really useful for bringing yourself back to the present moment. So can certain mindfulness exercises, like paying close attention to something in your immediate environment. An example is to stop, slow down, and notice what’s happening around you. What can you see, 터치, or hear? Pick out one thing, like the ticking of a clock, or the traffic going by. Zoom all of your attention in on that sound and really pay attention to it. Whenever your thoughts or something else distracts you, just pull your attention back to that one thing.

      If the flashbacks persist, or are causing you stress, we would recommend seeing a counsellor who understands how to address trauma. Check out our list of worldwide online services.
      Take care Joseph.

      • Comment by Amy Lootens

        Amy Lootens 대답 10월 12, 2016 12:40 오전

        발목 끈, The problem with the flashbacks that feel like present that you are now experiencing is when it was other people telling you what would happen to you later and they were right. Grassroots terrorism.

  11. Comment by wendy

    wendy 대답 11월 11, 2016 10:27 오전

    This is very useful for females as well thanks ;) I started having intense flashbacks about sexual assaults I experienced when i was 10, i’m now 46. I am beginning to realise a big trigger for me is going to my daughters primary schoolit smells like my old primary school, feels like it, and i was in year 5 과 6 when the assaults occurred. thanks for the articlevery helpful :)

  12. Comment by elontra

    elontra 대답 12 월 2, 2016 2:47 오후

    i was sexual abused from a family member and it was last year right before Christmas, and then I tried to kill my self. now that time of year is coming around again. I am having sever flash back and crying eposides.

    • Comment by Brenton [생활 잘 직원]

      Brenton [생활 잘 직원] 대답 January 24, 2017 12:14 오후

      Hi Elontra,

      Thank you for your comment and reaching out for help.

      Anniversaries and the surrounding time of traumatic events can be tough. There are a couple of things you can do to ensure your safety.

      Plan ahead for the traumatic period. Since for you it occurred around Christmas, you might consider whether you find work a distraction or a burden. Some people find work allows them to keep busy and not focus too much on the memories, whilst some people prefer to take time off and reduce external stressors.

      On planning you might link in with a therapist earlier in the year and work on a plan for what to do when Christmas rolls around. Another option is to find a therapist who specialises in sexual abuse and begin working on addressing some of the issues.

      Some other questions to consider include, do you have any friends or family you feel safe around? If so you might let them know you struggle around this time of year, and invite them to touch base with you over this period. It can be helpful to have a list of activities you can engage in to self sooth.

      Please take care of yourself, Elontra.

  13. Comment by Jayne Mills

    Jayne Mills 대답 12 월 4, 2016 8:46 오후

    I have flashbacks once I’ve fallen asleep and although once I’m awake I eventually manage to ground myself , I now fear sleep as that is when I tend to have the flashbacks. Can you suggest anything I can do before I go to sleep that might avert the flashbacks ? It’s difficult to control them if I’m asleep when they happen, I find them easier to deal with when Im awake..

  14. Comment by Moe

    Moe 대답 January 22, 2017 7:01 오전

    Thank you very much for this write up. I’ve learned some pretty good ways of dealing with my flashbacks. I like sitting in the bathroom sometimes and just sitting on the toilet doing nothing. In the dark. It really helps me as the flashback comes and then goes.
    IDKY, something about the cold and being in a small room.

  15. Comment by FrAnk

    FrAnk 대답 행진 25, 2017 5:23 오후

    I have this girl I hate so much..because she neglected me because of her boyfriend I hate her as much as I like herI stopped talk to her for a while and i spoke to her yesterday hope the hatred and angry would leave me me..but I still became more angry I keep having flashbacks and rembering every word I said to her and how weak I sounded..although she apologized for what she did to mebut I felt she wasn’t sorry because she said she’s sorry for what she put me through because I felt saying sorry was right for that particular context or momenti keep trying to imagine ..how better it would feel if I didn’t talk to her yesterday..I feel i opened my self too much to her ..and she knows more about me than I know about her ..at this point I regret meeting her in the first place..am still angry and uncomfortable..she might think everything is cool because she has apologized but I am sure that if I see her I will walk past her and not say a wordbecause right now as I can type this I can still remember the pain she put me through the exact feeling everything..like I am reliving it each passing day..I nev wan think about it but I just sit and get flashbacks about it and the worst is I don’t have control over my totsthe take control of me and rule me ..

  16. Comment by londy

    londy 대답 4월 15, 2017 5:50 오전

    I think this sounds crazy, I was raped 7 years ago but sometimes I have rape memories (플래시백), it happened long time ago but I still suffer.

  17. Comment by MC

    MC 대답 June 8, 2017 1:24 오전

    I just experienced an intense flashback that brought me back to a room where something happened and my fear made me over-react I think. It made me very confused. Like it made me feel exactly how I felt that day.
    Thank You. 35 남성

  18. Comment by PJ

    PJ 대답 July 17, 2017 1:43 오후

    I am in a new relationship with a woman and she was severely abused in ways I couldn’t imagine could happen. It is helpful to hear other people’s story and I can see similarities to her experience.

    Thanks for the tips! I will discuss them with her and see if I can help her when she gets triggered. It also helps me understand somewhat her horrific experiences

  19. Comment by Angie

    Angie 대답 July 30, 2017 4:03 오전

    I was raped 30 years ago and it still comes back to haunt me. I’ve stared counselling again after 10 years of feeling fine! The biggest thing I have learnt so far after 4 sessions is the power of breathing. Breathe from your abdomen and do it 3 또는 4 times an hour , in through the nose and out through the mouth……. when you do it well it relaxes you, aids sleep, makes the flashbacks less powerful and in my case controls my comfort eatingjust through slow deep breathing! And it’s completely free!

  20. Comment by Sam

    Sam 대답 9월 15, 2017 8:34 오전

    This was helpful but hard to read all at once for me personally. Although this has warnings the flashbacks triggered it’s my own fault for reading on but I felt like it’s something I needed to read. I have a therapist now and we are slowly making progress but I can’t reveal the full details to her and I won’t be giving too much detail on this but nothing can stop the flash backs, the feeling trapped, 무서워, feeling as though i am anything from 7-14 years old depending on the flashback, the heavy breathing, feeling crazy then the anger, feeling I am nothing as the words they were one of the main this that was said to me back then. I have I’ve had 14 years of them now I’m 28 and people say it will get better and you hear these stories of people being like they are cured are bullshit to me and I’m sorry but this is how I feel and for me you may be able to learn to deal and cope with them by understanding and accepting them but I understand them and I accept it happened but it still hurts like fuuuuuck and I can’t cope with the severity and volume I have to experience I just wish I could erase my memories from that age so I’d never know it happened and then I could be normal..sorry didn’t plan on saying all this it just kind of came out

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