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那男生被性侵犯者犯下性罪行?

在写此页, 我们要明确研究证据告诉我们,前面 遭受性侵犯 导致有人性得罪大多数男孩受到性侵犯的人 犯虐待.

然而,这个问题, 谁男孩被性虐待是否会继续犯下性罪行, 仍然是一个值得仔细考虑的严重关切. 不只是因为它是重要的是要考虑所有可能的因素,有助于性犯罪, 但也因为过于频繁的“受害人罪犯周期”的讨论不充分探讨人的生命不知情的公众讨论的影响,遭受性虐待.

不幸的是, 这个特定主题的特点一直被误传和过于简单化的处理. 有一个共同的信念,遭受性侵犯的“起因”一个男孩成为性虐待. 其结果是, 谁曾遭受性虐待的许多人都面临着经常压倒恐惧“成为一个罪犯。”

这是一个生动的观察男生的性虐待的所有可能的'结果'的 (如抑郁症, 焦虑, 倒叙, 关系困难, 睡眠不安, 自杀, 交的创伤困扰, 等等) 后用性犯罪的危险,研究最多的是.

本页面旨在做 3 事情

  1. 总结最可利用男孩之间的关系的研究’ 和性侵害的男人的经验, 和因素,可以有助于一个人犯下性罪行.
  2. 检查的效果和影响力“受害者罪犯'的想法在男人和男孩谁一直遭受性虐待的生活.
  3. 考虑性化的行为,由有关儿童受到性虐待和辱骂性的问题,想法和幻想的关注.

我们认识到这个网页,不能提供一个明确的文献回顾性犯罪和受害的经历. 然而, 我们希望能够在一定程度上纠正没有考虑不加批判地接受了“受害人对犯罪人”的想法在男孩和男人的生活的影响谁受到性虐待.

1. 研究说什么关于性犯罪?

所以, 究竟是谁犯的性罪行? 什么是这些罪犯的共同点?

这是一个错误, 当考虑的问题,性犯罪, 立刻集中在某人是否有遭受性侵犯的历史问题. 有已被鉴定为与性违规一系列因素, 而且有研究人员之间的纠纷哪个方案最显著. 例如, 一些研究者质疑我们来看看的作用 性别, 那些触犯性罪行,绝大多数是男性, 大约有 80% 男孩和 96% 男性性侵犯的女孩.

有一个共同的, 如果令人不安, 从研究上的作用,发现 阳刚之气 在性犯罪. 男人谁犯性侵犯有很多共同点一般的男人, 并倾向于以识别与 传统定型 阳刚之气的理想.

还, 考虑到性犯罪的时候它也是重要的是要故意性犯罪之间有着明显的区别的 成人, 和实例,让孩子表现出性感化的行为或被迫对其他儿童的性作为自己的性虐待经历的一部分.

在过去的研究 40 年已确定了一些 风险因素 这可以促成一个人犯下性犯罪的可能性. 向一般人群相比, 成年人谁犯对儿童性犯罪往往:

  • 表现出更大的侵略和暴力, 非暴力犯罪, 愤怒/敌意, 物质滥用, 偏执/不信任, 和诊断的反社会人格障碍.
  • 更有可能表现出焦虑, 萧条, 自卑, 和外控 (I.E. 认为它们不是在控制, 或负责, 他们用自己的行动).
  • 一般有更多的问题性图案 (包括幻想和性化的应对策略).
  • 具有较低的社交技能/能力, 报告更多的孤独感, 更多的困难与亲密关系, 和缺乏安全依恋.
  • 有家庭功能较差历史, 包括更严厉的管教, 附件较差或粘接, 和一般糟糕的运作他们的家庭出身, 包括身体虐待, 和性虐待.
  • 表达更宽容的态度,对儿童的性虐待和减少犯罪人的罪责.

从上面的列表中我们可以看到, 遭受性侵犯是 只有若干因素之一 调查性违规时,需要考虑.

其实, 研究结果表明,大多数男人性得罪谁 性虐待.

现在,我们将继续以具体看一下研究,用于检查滥用的周期. 在这样做的, 我们要重申的个人历史的问题,无论, 风险因素和性别问题: 每个人谁犯性侵犯是故意在选择这样做. 它不只是发生.

什么研究说的“虐待循环'和滥用的”风险“?

有研究表明男孩谁已经受到性虐待是在犯罪的高“风险”在以后的生活比男生谁没有.

重要的是要明白什么意思,是重要的“高风险”。如果说受到性虐待是后来得罪了“风险因素”并不意味着它会导致“后来得罪.

图表 - Victim to offender cycle

一个英国研究调查了男孩的未来犯罪行为谁曾遭受性虐待. 研究发现, 88%, 绝大多数, 没去犯下性罪行.

12% 男人谁是性虐待的童年继续犯下性罪行. 这是一个显著率较高的性虐待的男性总人口比犯下, 而且是需要认真研究的严重关切. 这就是我们所说的风险因素 - 但它肯定不是说男人会自动去犯虐待. 这表现在 88% 谁 .

Meta分析

在 2009, 两个美国的研究人员发表了一篇论文,其中审查 7 该研究'受害者到罪犯的周期。“他们专注于谁曾遭受性虐待的童年男性. 他们寻找因素增加或减少犯性罪行的危险 (对儿童,不论男女, 青少年和成年妇女, 或两者). 大体, 他们的研究结果并不表明,有一个简单的被滥用和违法之间的关系. 下面以简单的形式认定为违规的风险增加的因素:

  • 打手枪, 幻想, 和愉悦滥用.
  • 身体虐待 (除了性虐待) 在童年.
  • 目睹了高/在童年的家庭暴力的严重程度.
  • 性虐待的家庭和非家庭滥用.

加高男孩犯罪之间的风险已经提出的一些其他因素包括: 身体虐待, 忽视和排斥, 在童年目睹家庭暴力, 和其他有害的行为,如虐待动物. 另一个变量,要注意的是一个合适的, 支持性的反应在披露的时候,可以减少未来的犯罪行为的可能性 (威尔科克斯, 理查兹等人。, 2004).

在所有情况下, 结果是“更高的风险,'不是'因果'

Image of the roots of a strangler fig 在注意到证据 一些 受到性虐待的男孩已经犯下性罪行, 重要的是不要过度概括和治疗 所有 男孩和男人被性侵犯,有可能为未来的犯罪. 在“早期的研究综述儿童性虐待周期“ (在美国众议院的一个委员会的要求,委托美国总审计局) 发现这么少的证据来支持这一想法,他们打折的性侵犯男童侧重于防止未来性虐待的有效途径.

毫无疑问,上述所有信息提出了一个复​​杂的画面. 从某种意义上说, 这是有帮助的,因为它表明有 没有直接的联系 虐待和虐待之间. 有两个明确的讯息:

遭受性侵犯不引起别人的性冒犯.

多数谁是性虐待的男孩不要去犯滥用.

2. 男人的受害者,罪犯的想法的影响

男人对性虐待

男人谁经历过性虐待如何令人不安的“受害者罪犯'的想法是他们一再发表评论. 我们听到的, 反复, 是关于儿童性虐待的恐怖绝对的愤怒. 我们听到他们有多心疼是在暗示,他们会做一些伤害孩子.

违背这一想法, 被性侵犯的男性往往对儿童的保护和照料他们的生活中表达了激烈的承诺. 虽然, 在“受害者罪犯'的想法是在那里的社区.

在“受害人对罪犯'周期的理念:

  • 在自己的权利造成困扰. 由于担心被视为一个潜在的罪犯停止从披露的性虐待的男孩和男人. 尽管他 知道 他提出没有危险, 他很可能要关心别人, 包括那些接近他, 查看他用怀疑的眼光.
  • 令男人感觉,他们需要时刻警惕, 监控自己的思想和行为的情况下,他们成为“占有。”男子谁遭受性虐待的报告是非常清楚的想法,他们可能会“污染”或体验到“吸血效果,“因为做了什么给他们.

一个秘密的建议, 潜伏在潜意识中隐藏的欲望可以促使一个人从事高水平监测他们的内心世界的想法和感受, 搜索的“成为一个潜在的施虐者”的迹象 - 这是累人,并从其中有可能出现没有逃脱. 这并不奇怪,男人可以成为陷入了这种痛苦的, 内部自我监控, 鉴于外部世界的“超级警惕”已经是他们熟悉的, 发展作为一个孩子的一种手段,以逃避进一步的性虐待的东西 (通过不断监测环境, 你在说什么, 使用的音色, 那里的人们, 对可能存在的危险标志).

的“成为一个施虐者”的恐惧来自发展中国家的亲密关系停止性虐待男性, 结婚, 生儿育女, 成为充分参与养育, 他们的孩子洗澡或更换尿布, 玩或与儿童接触的, 放松, 相信自己. 以下是两人的户口怎么受害人罪犯想法已经影响到他们的生活:

想起听到一个人在30多岁的专业人士交谈时,他与他的家人 10 岁, 之后披露的性虐待. 卡住他,因为他已被滥用表示担心,他会成为施虐者. 他说:“现在,我认为我听到他们担心我成为一个施虐者虐待本身做太大的伤害,. 我被吓坏了,有孩子, 的情况下出现的怪物在等待里面. 它是只有当我拿着我的女儿,我知道我是OK的. 这是 17 多年在我的脑海不必要的地狱“。

一个男人在他50多岁, 在一个男人的性虐待支援小组, 满怀激情地对他的承诺,以一个全新的生活基础上,不损害或滥用他人, 并采取行动,以协助有需要的人. “我担心的是,, 如果我得到老年痴呆症或东西, 我会忘记所有这些东西对我很重要. 然后,也许'它'会出来,我会受到伤害或虐待的人。“

它不仅大众媒体和公众的神话促进有关男性性虐待的受害者,罪犯周期. 在上面的第一次报价, 一些男孩和男人遇到好心的专业人士谁误导性虐待和性犯罪之间的联系. 男孩和男人被性侵犯的研究和临床文献并不总是帮助事宜, 鼓励辅导员和治疗师的互动与男人谁不受欢迎的性接触有潜在滥用 (OUELLETTE, 2009).

关键心理学家露丝Miltenburg和伊丽歌手的发表了一篇文章 2000 约的方式很多心理学研究有一个 面向问题 重点不考虑事实,即“…尽管可怕的经验, 很多人仍然在构建一个满意的生活为自己成功。“他们认为,为了了解虐待儿童是如何影响人, 我们需要去倾听别人怎么说的道德决定,他们在生活他们的生活. 什么也没有全面的研究一直受到什么影响和支持男人的性虐待的童年以便更好地照顾和保护儿童.

一个人可能会考虑一些问题

那些男人性虐待的童年, 它可以是有用采取一些时间来考虑受害人罪犯的想法如何对你的生活产生了影响:

  • 滥用的恐惧担心你源?
  • 滥用的恐惧如何影响涉及到儿童的方式,你在你的生活? 它是如何影响你们的关系与其他人你靠近?
  • 如果你是一个家长或照顾者, 害怕滥用影响怎么舒服,你有亲密, 照顾, 爱的感情对你的孩子? 如果是这样, 如何?
  • 如果不是父母, 有害怕滥用以任何方式影响这个决定?
  • 你将如何在你的关系有不同的行为,如果这种担心是不是一个因素?
  • 如果你担心儿童被虐待的可能性, 并采取措施保护儿童,避免伤害, 可能说你的意图, 关于什么样的人,你正努力成为?
  • 什么样的价值观对你很重要的方面,你如何认为儿童应被视为?
  • 你如何根据这些值的方式,促进更安全, 儿童的关心和支持? 这怎么可能意味着你是谁虐待你的人不同?

为什么会出现这种想法坚持?

由于证据确凿,大多数性虐待的男孩不要去犯下性虐待, 我们如何解释这一理念的持久力量,并呼吁一个周期的滥用? 不同的作者也提出了几个理由, 包括;

  1. 这是一个简单的解释. 鉴于复杂和可怕的现实,对儿童的性虐待, 这并不奇怪,一个整洁的, 简单的'圈子',解释为什么这样令人震惊的事情发生了令人欣慰的是. 它面对的现实相比,有些人刻意选择,性虐待孩子.
  2. 它适合整齐地与“污染”和一些旧观念“吸血鬼咬了一口。”
  3. 如果“风险”被包含于一组“他人” – 男人谁是性虐待 - 其中,我们还不是会员, 然后它被减为我们所面临.
  4. 这意味着不必面对的文化条件,让儿童性虐待发生. 如果性虐待可以解释为个人生活史, 我们不面临更具挑战性的解决, 更大的社会因素, 如试图解释和解决的事实,对儿童性犯罪的大部分都是由男性.

3. 担心滥用

作为一个孩子的性化行为

有些男人和女人记住并表示关注,他们是儿童或青少年时, 他们发起性行为不当或滥用接触后,他们与其他儿童性虐待. 有些报道说儿童或青少年,他们是被迫这样做的人谁得罪他们, 有时威胁, 胁迫或者鼓励他们这样做. 我们已经谈过了成年人谁相信这些行为“证明”他们是一个未来的风险给他人.

重要的是要区分故意从事性虐待行为的成年人和儿童或青少年的行动. 当年轻人或孩子遇到性创伤事件 (其中可能包括性虐待的一个实例, 或在受虐待的环境中生活), 这种情况并不少见,他们“行为,去” - 什么专家呼吁显然这种行为会造成巨大的痛苦,应该认真对待“反应性化的行为。”. 但, 可以理解的是孩子的反应创伤性事件可以由混乱被驱动, 困扰和冲动企图“自我安抚” (试图管理镦思想和感情). 创伤性化的行为往往是短命的,当一个孩子或年轻的人提供适当的支持,可以解决 (从辅导员或一个负责任的成年人在他们的生活中).

与此相反, 大多数成年人谁犯下的性虐待是非常谨慎, 他们如何去了解它的规划和计算. 虽然一些研究人员强调机会的作用, 性虐待是不太可能“恰好”。 (例外,这可能是对某些人来说,有一个认知/智力残疾,这可能会导致他们冲动行事).

如果你作为一个孩子被虐待的反应性作用, 这是可以理解的,这可能是现在给你很大的困扰的来源. 这也可能是有用的为您找到一个明智的辅导员,以帮助理解发生了什么. 但, 假设这种行为停止在童年, 它本身 意味着你要犯下性罪行现在作为一个成年人.

思考和幻想有关滥用

男子性虐待的童年报告性化的思想和幻想的困扰, 特别是有关造成有人伤害. 每个人都有幻想和想法, 包括性的想法. 这些想法可帮助我们在健康的关系感到快感和性享受. 其他可能是一个非常尴尬, 耻辱, 有罪, 或关注. 不幸的是, 有这么多关于性的混合和相互矛盾的信息,即使是健康的, 非自虐性的想法,能引起人们的苦恼.

恶梦会发生什么,以及我们如何清醒时行为之间是有区别的, 幻想与现实之间. 我们每个人都有想法,我们并没有真正采取行动. 虽然我们想挑战性虐待的人,所有的人的想法是“潜在罪犯”, 我们同样不想解雇任何人谁是真的很担心自己的辱骂性的想法和潜在的触犯性虐待. 首先要说的是: 如果你正在计划成立的情况下,性虐待孩子或其他人, 尽快寻求适当的帮助, 拨打求助热线, 有人可以帮助你的人交谈.

如果您有虐待性化的想法, 担心这些想法是一个更好的反应比不担心. 正如我们上面看到的, 性化的虐待幻想 (尤其是在自慰) 可以犯滥用的危险因素之一. 这是很有可能这些思想和幻想的干扰和困扰你,即使你没有对他们采取行动的意图,因此重要的是你从别人谁是熟悉的工作与男性被性侵犯者获得适当的专业帮助.

我们建议您阅读此链接到网站的信息 1in6.org, 谁曾不受欢迎的性接触的男人: 我是要成为虐待?

参考文献

  • OUELLETTE, 中号. (2009). “”有些东西还是没有说出来”: 话语中的性虐待的男孩。(报告).” 青年: 年轻人, 文本, 文化 1(1): 67(27).
  • Miltenburg, ŗ. 和E. 歌手 (2000). “一个概念变成了激情: 道德承诺和虐待儿童的幸存者的情感发展。” 理论 & 心理学 10(4): 503.
  • 理查兹, AIC纸

 

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  2. Comment by Jonno the Conqueror

    Jonno the Conqueror 回复 八月 29, 2016 4:20 下午

    There’s no such thing as the bite of the vampire. We all have choices and those who have been subject to abuse or those who haven’t have the same choices. Judgement can be clouded due to a variety of reasons but no reason excuses or justifies abuse. That’s why experienced counsellors such as Mike Lew refuse to allow abusers who were abused into group settings with survivors who have not offended, never the twain shall meet!

  3. Comment by Soulinavessel

    Soulinavessel 回复 九月 2, 2016 8:04 上

    I’m a female and me and my sister were molested by our brother. He did this from a young age (around 10yrs old) especially with my little sister since she was 5 years younger than him and more vulnerable where as I was 3 years younger than him. We had confronted him every time it happened and he would deny it however recently we confronted him and he not only admitted to what he did but said that the same thing happened to him. I remember my sister telling me he wanted to penetrate her anally and assuring her that it wouldnt hurt. How did he know this and what made him say such a thing? Someone must have said and done the same thing. I feel sorry for the child he was but how did thay scared child turn into the monster he would have once been afraid of? He also has said he forgives the family member and non family members who did this to him and cant see why we hate him. He even hangs out with the family memer who sexually traumatised him from a disturbingly young age. I will always want to save that child who was on his own and was silenced by these monsters, if this had not happened would he have been a normal? What baffles me is his disgust at being abused yet lack of empathy to us who he has abused with the intention of doing the same damage and attempting to repeat what happened to him. This is something that will never leave me, it haunts me more than my own abuse. I will be extra vigilant with my children and anyone near them, I’d rather be paranoid than sorry.

    • Comment by Soulinavessel

      Soulinavessel 回复 九月 2, 2016 8:10 上

      I don’t have children, I meant in the future. Although I’m attracted to men I find it hard to visualise or find pleasure it the thouhght of being intimate. I hope I get over this as I would love a family of my own too see what childhood should be and to raise beautifully kind people.

      • 由杰西评论 [生活好员工]

        桎梏 [生活好员工] 回复 九月 2, 2016 12:11 下午

        Soulinavessel, 感谢您取得联系. I am so sorry to hear that you and your sister were sexually abused, and of the lack of empathy and support your brother has shown to you since.

        We know that it can be particularly difficult for someone who has been sexually abused themselves to understand a situation like your brother’s. When someone who has been abused themselves goes on to abuse and hurt another child, when they know how distressing and painful it is, it just doesn’t seem to make sense.

        It must be particularly difficult to hear your brother is now in contact with the people who abused him, yet does not understand your negative feelings. I would not presume to know what is going on inside your brother’s head, and why he is making the choices he is. It is understandable that you would hate the person that assaulted your brother, in light of the fact that he then went on to abuse you. I can see how you could say that it was your brother’s abuser that then ‘caused’ you to be sexually abused.

        I am not sure if your brother has thought of it this way, or thought of how his continued contact with the person who abused him is hurtful and upsetting to you and your sister, given the distress and pain you have subsequently suffered. Some people who have experienced sexual abuse, and then gone on to commit sexual abuse themselves, may minimise or wish to deny the suffering the abuse has caused them or others. This could be thought of as a way to make sense of it in his mind in order to operate in the world. It can be too personally and emotionally confronting otherwise, so the person will just shut down emotionally and distance themselves from the person that they sexually abused.

        When sexual abuse occurs within families it can often be much more confronting and painful. Unlike when the attack is committed by a stranger, you are confronted by the presence or knowledge of the person who abused you in an ongoing basis. This is why some people will distance themselves from the familyin order to protect themselves.

        I hear that one of the important supports you have is your sister, and that you have been there for each other. It is dreadful that you and your sister have had to go through this, and that your brother’s denial has caused ongoing hurt. It is completely understandable that you would be watchful and want to make sure children are safe. It’s also understandable that it is difficult for you to visualise being intimate with a man, or that it could bring pleasure.

        It is a testimony to the kind of person you are, and want to be, that you speak of the importance of raising children in a safe, 照顾, beautiful environment. I would encourage both of you to find a good counsellor who can assist you to better manage in the present, and build the positive supportive lives you deserve.

        I hope my response assists in some small way in encouraging you to continue to prioritise your well being. I wish you the best.

  4. Comment by Pamra Olson

    Pamra Olson 回复 九月 28, 2016 9:17 上

    My brother two weeks ago was arrested and confessed to molesting his 7 year old great granddaughter. Her mother came forward and stated that he molested her when she was around the same age and that the relationship continued until around three months ago. We come from a very abusive childhood, my sister and I were abused when we were 6 和 4 by a baby sitter, and the abuse continued from there. Our stepfather, his friends, fathers of the kids we babysat for and my brother. We were also physically abused everyday with beatings for the slightest offense. My brother who is the oldest was abused by a man he worked for when he was 12, before that he was abused by Uncles and was sexualized by porn from my step father. The pedophilia came as the biggest, most amazing surprise of my life. I thought I was going to die from the shock! He of course always denied his abuse as an adult while my sister and I accused, proclaimed and requested validation only to be told repeated that we were liars. Now we are validated, he is talking about his abuse, apologising for what he did to us his sisters and accepting the consequences. He told me in the 1st phone conversation since I learned about him that the truth is that he has molested all of his Granddaughters and Great Granddaughters and that one was angry because she couldn’t have candy for breakfast and told on him, this is the only one he has confessed to. My brother grew up to be one of those men I hate and I am so stuck on the fence because I love him also and it tears me apart. He told me that he developed these urges when he was a teen around 15. He admitted to molesting a girl he babysat for. He has molested two generations of girls in his family, I know he is a groomer, I know he is very sick. I know he desperately needs help but he most likely won’t get it in the Prison System, and I am so worried that he will be killed in prison because we all know what happens to pedophiles in prison. It has been so heart breaking to try to wrap my head around all of this, do I report regarding the other girls? Will they get help if they aren’t reported I am so torn. He will go to prison for ever if it comes out that he molested 10 girls over 24 岁月. As an abuse survivor I am one of those girls! I feel like I have lost my innocence again. I have a supportive husband, therapist and psychiatrist so I know I am going to get through this. I have had the rug pulled up from under me and I am still waiting to hit the ground. Do you ever really know somebody?

  5. Comment by Susan

    苏珊 回复 九月 30, 2017 9:38 上

    Where might I find the most recent United States Statistic Report on The Cycle of Abuse? (男性 & 女)

    • 由杰西评论 [生活好员工]

      桎梏 [生活好员工] 回复 十月 4, 2017 9:13 上

      You would need to search a research journal database for any recent statistics. I would suggest visiting your local university library, or failing that, Google Scholar.

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